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How To Let Go. For Real.

This week, I woke up with a very easy, but super helpful insight twice: in order to release it, you have to go through it & accept everything fully. They came right on time in a period in which I felt something was stuck. I didn’t know why or where it came from, but I did know it needed to be released. Here is what I did to TRULY let go with my body, not just with my mind.



1. meditate on where you feel the shadow in your body: where do you feel sensations? this can be a knot, burning, a pulsation

2. become fully aware of where the shadow is & start to embrace it, instead of pushing it away. the more you resist it, the bigger it will get, so allow it to be there as it is, no need to analyse it.

3. most difficult, but crucial step: accept that this is happening. not just a little: accept it fully. say to yourself ‘this is what I’m feeling right now’ if it helps you.

4. now that you’ve brought it into the light, simply go on with your life, checking in with your body every now & then, working on accepting what you feel. when you’re ready to let go & fully except it, it will leave your body.

5. optional: write down what this shadow taught you & be thankful for its lesson.


well done you!! you did it :)


If you’re stuck in step one: know that you’re doing an awesome job recognising that something needs to be transformed. This is the biggest step & many people never get to this. The rest will come.


Which step was hardest for you? How did you do it anyway? Let me know in the comments below.


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  • Reply Ayse Ozer May 2, 2016 at 12:16 pm

    Hello dear Eliza!
    This post absolutely summarize well how we can overcome the shadows and key point is not ro resist and accept. I have tried this 2 weeks ago to reduce my anxiety and the result came quicker than I thought. Not really hard, because in a blink everything can change. Just let it go :)

    • Reply Eliza Coolsma May 2, 2016 at 12:26 pm

      amazing Ayse! well done and absolutely true :)

  • Reply Gabrielle February 27, 2015 at 9:08 am

    Hello lovely Eliza…
    It feels so good to observe, accept and release… with lots of love…
    Have a beautiful sunny day…

    • Reply admin March 27, 2015 at 1:40 pm

      yes! <3
      you too Gabrielle.

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